Session Start (katsings4u@sbcglobal.net:guyin909_33): Fri Mar 10 16:22:08 2006

[04:22:08.PM] guyin909_33: hi.. care to chat if not busy?

[04:22:08.PM] *** Auto-response sent to guyin909_33: Signed in but not at my desk. OK to leave message, I'll get back to you ASAP.

[04:22:53.PM] guyin909_33: well, not much of a message to leave since we havent chatted before

[04:23:23.PM] guyin909_33: anyhoo, am a management consultant.. work in the inland empire, near riverside.. say hi another time or send a request to add as a friend

Session Close (guyin909_33): Fri Mar 10 21:15:06 2006


Session Start (katsings4u@sbcglobal.net:guyin909_33): Mon Mar 13 15:51:30 2006

[15:51:30PM] guyin909_33: <ding>

[15:51:31PM] *** Auto-response sent to guyin909_33: Signed in but not at my desk. OK to leave a message, I'll get back to you ASAP.

[15:55:05PM] KATsings4u: You did NOT just use that annoying "BUZZ!!!" thing, did you? I hate that thing with a passion! :P

[15:56:11PM] guyin909_33: aww... i am sawwwy... just that we chatted the other day and then u been busy

[15:56:17PM] guyin909_33: ;;)

[15:56:28PM] guyin909_33: are u at work?

[15:56:45PM] KATsings4u: Actually you chatted, I was watching a movie w/my son and later I accepted your adding me, because you were polite and not a jerk. :)

[15:57:21PM] KATsings4u: I'm at home, but I moderate a support group and I'm doing the "I have to moderate this situation" thing. So my IM responses may be slow for a bit.

[15:57:30PM] guyin909_33: oyy.. i was chatting by myself?

[15:57:31PM] guyin909_33: :P

[15:57:41PM] KATsings4u: Yep, but only a little. :))

[15:58:09PM] guyin909_33: thats y i must think u wanted me.. lol.. since i was replying for you too

[15:58:09PM] KATsings4u: Let's see, here's the history from your chat w/yourself (lmao)....
guyin909_33: hi.. care to chat if not busy?
guyin909_33: well, not much of a message to leave since we havent chatted before
guyin909_33: anyhoo, am a management consultant.. work in the inland empire, near riverside.. say hi another time or send a request to add as a friend

[15:58:16PM] guyin909_33: so are u a stay at home mom?

[15:58:31PM] KATsings4u: For another two years, then I'll just be a stay at home person. ;)

[15:58:47PM] guyin909_33: ohh okay okay, da lady be keeping records.. be carefull

[15:58:57PM] guyin909_33: kids moving out of the house already?

[15:59:51PM] KATsings4u: My older son will be 19 in May, my younger 16 in April.

[16:00:07PM] KATsings4u: Older son already moved out, he was just here to visit a bit ago actually.

[16:00:09PM] guyin909_33: wow

[16:00:19PM] KATsings4u: Yes, I was very young when I had my kids. lol

[16:00:22PM] guyin909_33: how old are u? mine are just 8 and 3

[16:00:29PM] KATsings4u: 35

[16:00:38PM] guyin909_33: i am 36

[16:00:49PM] guyin909_33: damn girl so u had ur 1st one at 16????

[16:01:03PM] guyin909_33: what does hubby do?

[16:01:10PM] guyin909_33: were u married at 16???

[16:01:53PM] KATsings4u: Hell no, even if my mom would have let me, I wouldn't have wanted to be married as a minor! lo

[16:02:25PM] KATsings4u: It was hard enough being a teenage parent, didn't need the stress of being married to a teenage boy to top it off. :))

[16:02:36PM] guyin909_33: lol

[16:02:47PM] guyin909_33: so where are u located?

[16:03:06PM] KATsings4u: My partner is in the medical field; XRay Tech at a clinic as well as overseeing students at a school for XRay Tech's.

[16:03:47PM] KATsings4u: Can you hang on a few? I've got a "situation" with a support group.... some members are taking in upon themselves to decide who does and does not have the "right" to be there. SHEESH!!! lol

[16:04:20PM] guyin909_33: support group?

[16:04:53PM] KATsings4u: Hang on, I'll get to it in a few. I have to stop this situation before it gets out of hand and goes from support to a Flame War. lol

[16:04:55PM] KATsings4u: BRB

[16:05:24PM] guyin909_33: ahh so then looks like ur active online..

[16:05:30PM] guyin909_33: IM when free

[16:06:07PM] KATsings4u: Will do, I'll make it as quick as I can.... I hate having to play Babysitter for adults. =))

[16:06:12PM] KATsings4u: BRB.... again, lol

[16:46:30PM] guyin909_33: whoa

[16:46:39PM] guyin909_33: was that a little issue

[16:46:45PM] guyin909_33: or a full fledged civil war???

[16:46:48PM] guyin909_33: u be gone????

[16:54:34PM] KATsings4u: Sorry, it was a really stupid issue but there were four people sticking their noses where they didn't belong.... they are NEW members of the support group at that, and they're acting like they can decide who's going to be "allowed" into their little "club" (uh, I thought it was a support group? lol), there are a few high and mighty people in that group not to mention major control freaks.

[16:55:05PM] guyin909_33: what is this group about?

[16:55:19PM] guyin909_33: this is an online group one assumes

[16:55:28PM] KATsings4u: This particular one is a support group for the spouses/partners of people who have bipolar disorder.

[16:55:35PM] KATsings4u: Yes, an online support group, exactly.

[16:56:14PM] guyin909_33: umm and how are u involved?

[16:56:37PM] KATsings4u: There are some members in the group who seem to think that if a member has bipolar then they shouldn't be there because they "don't want to be told they are wrong" etc. Well the thing is, the bipolar members have bipolar partners, so they ARE needing the support.... it's just stupid B.S. period.

[16:56:42PM] guyin909_33: u have a disorder?

[16:57:27PM] KATsings4u: Well, I have bipolar myself. And my last two serious relationships happened to be partners who have bipolar. Difference is, they live in denial and refuse to even address it much less get treatment.

[16:57:31PM] guyin909_33: what is bipolar disorder?

[16:57:49PM] KATsings4u: You're heard of Manic-Depressive Illness, right?

[16:57:59PM] guyin909_33: yea

[16:58:18PM] KATsings4u: They (the "professionals" that is) renamed it to "Bipolar Disorder" about ten to fifteen years ago.

[16:58:30PM] guyin909_33: ahh

[16:58:36PM] KATsings4u: Same illness, just a different name. Don't you just love it when they screw with the population like that? lol

[16:58:57PM] guyin909_33: are u on medication then? they say it can get out of hand if u dont get treatment

[16:59:39PM] KATsings4u: I take two pharmaceutical medications.... the rest is "alternative" (a.k.a., NATURAL) treatment, as well as having had years of therapy and working on modifying my behaviors, etc.

[16:59:54PM] KATsings4u: Some BP's don't need medications, although it's true that most do.

[17:00:09PM] guyin909_33: damn, i was thinking of hitting on you since ur local and cute...lol

[17:00:30PM] guyin909_33: but i dont want drama, i am a professional w a family...he he

[17:00:41PM] KATsings4u: My younger son, who will be 16 in a couple of weeks, has his bipolar under control literally from working on learning his symptoms and behaviors, and then changing his reactions into responses. :)

[17:01:01PM] guyin909_33: where are u located?

[17:01:25PM] guyin909_33: are u here online just for support? or do you meet anybody? like for something casual...

[17:02:21PM] KATsings4u: Uh... did you read my profile before you messaged me to begin with?

[17:02:57PM] guyin909_33: no, i cant access profiles at work.. u were local so i just said hi

[17:03:01PM] guyin909_33: y...?

[17:03:10PM] KATsings4u: Then how did you find me, if you can't read profiles?

[17:03:57PM] guyin909_33: anyhoo

[17:04:02PM] KATsings4u: Why? Because my profile says clearly that I am in a long term relationship, and that I am not online for cyber, sub/dom games, dating, etc.

[17:04:06PM] guyin909_33: so tell me what ur here for..

[17:04:27PM] guyin909_33: ahh okay.. thanks

[17:04:30PM] KATsings4u: You didn't answer me.... how did you find me (and know I was "local") if you didn't see my profile? Really, I'm curious!

[17:04:38PM] guyin909_33: well, i also have a gal, not looking for a relationship

[17:04:44PM] guyin909_33: just friends and possible benefits

[17:04:50PM] guyin909_33: i go to members.yahoo.com

[17:05:00PM] guyin909_33: u can do a search there

[17:05:05PM] KATsings4u: What's wrong with the benefits you have with your gal? Not enough?

[17:05:17PM] guyin909_33: same ole same ole

[17:05:23PM] guyin909_33: tried tested, nothing new

[17:05:34PM] guyin909_33: u are happy? sometimes a change of scenery helps

[17:06:45PM] KATsings4u: The whole idea of a RELATIONSHIP is to have something solid in one's life, and that means it won't remain "new" for long. Change of scenery? Take a walk in a beautiful mountain trail or on a beach, etc. Why would a change of scenery be needed RE: the opposite sex when in a relationship?

[17:07:02PM] KATsings4u: Or... why be in a relationship if "same ole same ole" isn't satisfactory?

[17:07:41PM] KATsings4u: And yes, I'm very happy indeed. And it's far from new either: almost eleven years of history now.

[17:07:56PM] guyin909_33: same here

[17:07:59PM] guyin909_33: that long here too

[17:08:09PM] guyin909_33: but now i want a discreet friend with benefits near work

[17:08:46PM] KATsings4u: What would you do if you found out that she was doing that to you, looking for a discreet friends with benefits thing?

[17:08:51PM] KATsings4u: Would you stay with her?

[17:09:15PM] guyin909_33: well, as far as i dont know

[17:09:26PM] KATsings4u: Uh..... huh???

[17:09:37PM] guyin909_33: obviously i wouldnt love it

[17:09:38PM] guyin909_33: anyway

[17:09:42PM] guyin909_33: so ur not interested then?

[17:09:51PM] KATsings4u: Ah, but it's OK for YOU to do it, eh? LMAO

[17:11:49PM] guyin909_33: u never slept w anybody on the side?

[17:12:20PM] KATsings4u: Nope, never. That's what a committed relationship is about, isn't it? That's what I've thought all my life anyhow.

[17:12:35PM] guyin909_33: ahh okay

[17:12:39PM] guyin909_33: well, we can still chat

[17:12:46PM] KATsings4u: And here I accepted your adding me because your IM's were polite, your profile said you're in a long term relationship, so I figured that someone wanted to chit chat with someone local. Didn't know you had other ideas. Sneaky fella, ain't ya?

[17:12:47PM] guyin909_33: but i do want a local friend with benefits

[17:12:51PM] guyin909_33: know anybody interested?

[17:13:40PM] KATsings4u: You, my dear, just may be the next entry into my Hall of Fame.


Session Close (guyin909_33): Mon Mar 13 20:43:43 2006